Hey Red! How do I decide when I'm stuck in "maybe?"

Hey Red! How do I decide when I'm stuck in "maybe?" -  A Side of Fabulous Blog

Hey Red!

I'm stuck in the middle ground. I know what I don't want anymore. I know what I still want to keep. I find it very mentally taxing trying to decide what I should keep and what I should get rid of for those items in the middle ground. Help! 

Stuck in the Middle

Dear Stuck, 

The grey area is mentally taxing and, quite frankly, sucks. Don't allow a middle ground.

Don't allow "meh" to steal your energy. 

In Greg McKeown's book, "Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less" he says that anything that isn't a clear and strong yes is a no. 

Simply put:

If it's not "HELL YES!," if it doesn't light you up, if it doesn't make you happy then it's a "no."

It's hard to do, and can be scary at first, but once you feel the fresh energy from the newly created space in your home and in your head, you'll be SO glad you did it.

Still stuck and freaked out my tossing maybes? Here are two other options:

  • Think about potential future use of the items. Will you use it again? If so, when? If you can't say a definitive yes and/or when you'll use the item (not merely "maybe") then let it go. 


  • Box up all the "maybes" up and put them away somewhere. Give the box an expiration date, and put the date on your calendar. If you pull anything from the box then it's something useful and then gets integrated into your organizational system. Whatever is left in the box when the expiration date hits gets donated without looking back.   

The nice thing about boxing up the maybes and putting them away is that it allows you to feel your home without the excess. Sometimes this is the extra oomph needed to toss the maybes once and for all. 

So remember: 

If it's not a strong yes or no, go ahead and let it go!

Oh yeah, I just rhymed.

Good luck! You got this! 

Do you have a go-to question when you're unsure of what to let go of vs. keep? Share it in the comments! 

Melinda Massie - A Side of Fabulous

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